The Right Time to Heal

How long does it take to heal from the perception of an event or the infliction of a wound?

Medical experts have theories on how long our body should take to heal from an illness or physical wound, however, what about those emotional wounds?

Some people seem to float through, others bounce back quickly and still others seem to suffer indefinitely?

Is there a right and a wrong way to heal?

The answer is: your healing is YOUR healing.

The only one to determine if you are healing in the manner that is best for you - is YOU.

I met a man last week, Steven, and his Grandfather, Charles, of whom he was quite proud. Steven's Grandparents had been married for over 40 years, until the his Grandmother passed away. A number of months after the death of his wife, Charles started dating again. When he did this, he received criticism from friends and family. Some were voicing their opinion as to whether he had loved his wife, to be moving on so quickly. They saw his behavior as uncaring and selfish, and took every opportunity to tell him. They believed in a societal time frame on healing after the death of a "loved" one, and he was violating that social time limit in their eyes. almost daily someone would say to him, "If you loved your wife, then how could you betray her this way after death". He felt attacked. He felt he was the one being treated unloving. He stayed true to what he knew was his healing journey, what was right for him.

When he announced his plans to marry his new girlfriend less than 18 months after his first wives death, many of Charles' "friends" refused to attend the ceremony.

As you heal a wound or a loss in your life, are you following a healing time requirement that was set outside of yourself, or are you listening to inspired guidance and following inspired action on your journey?What is your reaction to another persons' healing process?

Did you have a reaction to Charles' story?

Did it empower you or show you a pre-mature cognitive commitment that you have embodied?Mindfulness is a powerful Key. Be mindful of your reasons for your opinions and judgments, Create the most loving healing space for yourself by embracing your healing journey and healing on your terms. This is a powerful key to loving yourself.


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