Fitting in or having the life you desire?”

In a conversation with a friend one day, when asked how I was as I moving through a problem that came into my life, I replied that I was focusing on solutions. She responded that she would do the same but since everyone else was complaining about everything, she felt she wouldn’t fit unless she did the same.

You need to ask yourself “Which is more important – fitting in or having the life you desire?”

“The definition of Insanity is doing the same things
and expecting different results.”
~ Albert Einstein ~

When you start focusing on your DESIRES, and you start to have them and accomplish them, you will not longer “fit in” with the people who choose to focus on the problems and the excuses. Only you can decide if you want to fit in with the people who criticize and complain, or fit in with the group of people who are having and accomplishing their deepest DESIRES.

As you write your LIST of DESIRES, answer these two questions with each one:

How will I change?How will this change my life?

Be deeply honest with yourself. Will you feel more freedom? Will you feel happier? Will you be more generous? Will you be afraid of what others will think and say? Will you be nice or mean?

Some people stop themselves because they are afraid of actually having what they really DESIRE; others are afraid of becoming “like those mean or dishonest people”; others are afraid people may not like them.

Make an agreement with yourself how you will grow in a positive way.

When you write how you will change next to your DESIRES, you will be reinforcing your positive change every time you read your LIST.

”When you rise above the masses you will always become a target.
Just as a flower grows taller than the surrounding grass,
and becomes a target for the nourishing sunshine,
it also becomes a target to be cut down.”
~ Sumner Davenport ~