You will change

When you start to focus on what you desire – YOU WILL CHANGE!

“Things do not change; we change.“~ Henry David Thoreau ~

As you start to focus on what you desire – your behaviors will begin to change. And as you begin to reach your goals and receive your desires – you will change.

If your desire is to have more money, and you focus on having that, you will change – you will find yourself behaving with more ease of spending as your money increases. You will begin to think and act with more confidence that you will continue to receive the money you desire and deserve. You will begin to focus on having even more money, and watching for the opportunities that will bring it to you.

If your desire is to have a healthier or slimmer body, and you focus on having that, you will change. Your behavior will change. You will relinquish excuses and watch for ways to support yourself in having the body you have always dreamed about. You will find your self-image will change as your body changes. You will find your body changing as your self image changes.

If your desire is to have more “things” and you focus on having them, you will change. You will find yourself enjoying the things you already have, the new things you get, and you will feel confident each time you add a new thing to your list of desires.

When you start to receive those things that you are placing you new focus on, you will begin to raise the level of your desires. Your faith and self confidence will increase. You will complain less and watch your words more carefully.

People will notice.

Some will admire you, some will criticize.

”When you rise above the masses you will always become a target.
Just as a flower grows taller than the surrounding grass,
and becomes a target for the nourishing sunshine,
it also becomes a target to be cut down.”
~ Sumner Davenport ~

Enjoy your transformation. Start by admiring yourself. Lead the way.

Being a Mentor

It was brought to our attention recently that someone was teaching Simple Keys tools without giving credit for where she obtained these tools.

We sat in on one of her classes. She had a cover over my book and read from it several times, always without acknowledging the book title or the class where she learned the keys.

After she finished the class, we approached her to introduce myself and to chat about her teaching process. She complained that when she took the Simple Keys class, that the tools worked for her so she wanted to use them with her students. We asked her why she was hiding the book from her students.

After discussion, she admitted a few things:
(1) She wanted to get the praise and admiration of being the teacher.
(2) She was afraid that if she told her students where she really got the tools that they wouldn't want to learn from her and instead they would want to go directly to the Simple Keys course or to the books themselves.
(3) Her students were having difficulty understanding the keys so it took more effort on her part to assist them in getting the same positive results she had seen happen from students in my classes.

However, what she began to understand during our conversation was that by her hiding from her students that she herself has a mentor she was stopping the flow of them seeing her as a mentor. And by taking the credit for what was written by someone else, was a form of stealing; and she admitted that some of her students were not paying as agreed and her class sizes were not growing.

We suggested that she do an experiment at her next class where she intended to use one of the Simple Keys tools. This time, she was to tell her students that this was a tool she learned from her mentor and that this was a Simple Keys tool. She was to explain why and when she used this tool and the personal results she got when she used the tool.

She called a few days later, almost in tears. She had received feedback from her students that it was the best class ever. They went on to tell her that it was easier to grasp what she was teaching them when she gave personal examples because it then felt that then they could see how it would work in their lives.

Following up with her again a few weeks later, she was excited to share that her class size was growing, and one student paid her the best compliment– “You are my mentor because you are real.”

We believe we are all here to learn from each other, and there are many messengers. The message we deliver is not new, it is only our interpretation of the message. The difference is when we take responsibility for our interpretation or our sharing of another’s interpretation.

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The purpose of life

"The purpose of life is to be happy. Ones own mental attitude is the most influential factor in working towards that goal. In order to change conditions outside ourselves, whether they concern the environment or relations with others, we must first change within ourselves.

Inner peace is the key. In that state of mind you can face difficulties with calm and reason, while keeping your inner happiness."

~ Dalai Lama ~

It Works

It's unknown whether Michael Phelps read It Works with Simple Keys, however, he followed the timeless message presented in the book, and we are all aware of his results. (unless you have been under a rock during the Olympics)

Step 1 - Write down your goals and intentions

This year Michael Phelps revealed how he had a piece of paper, his intention list in his bedroom and after his remarkable wins at the Olympics in an interview with Bob Costas: “What was on that much talked about piece of paper? You wish lost or your intention list?”

Phelps:” I think you saw it. It was all there, I think the only difference was the 200 fly, but other than that everything was pretty close to, pretty close to identical to what was written on the piece of paper.”

Step 2 - Read your written goals and intentions daily – envision them

Phelps talks about using his imagination to fuel his goals:” The biggest thing that I've been thankful for is that I have been able to use my imagination. When some people said it's not possible and it can't be done, I think that's when my imagination came into play.“

"I think it really shows that no matter what you set your imagination to, anything can happen. If you dream as big as you can dream, anything is possible. I saw so many quotes saying it's impossible to duplicate it, it won't happen. It just shows you that anything can happen.

Step 3 - Take action

Phelps:“ I’ve been able to have a lot of hard work and Bob (his coach) and I have gone through a lot together. It's all paid off."

Another important Key -

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the really great people
make you feel that you too can become great.”
~ Mark Twain ~

Another behavior Phelps adopted was to only share his goals with the one person he trusted to maintain that vision (His coach). Doing this he could prevent naysayers from attempting to tell him why it couldn’t be accomplished and perhaps this also helped him to replace the message a middle-school English teacher once told him that he would never be successful with the positive vision and support form his coach.

Accomplish your dreams

Write It Down

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” ~ Helen Keller ~

Write down on paper in order of their importance, the things and conditions you really desire. Do not be afraid of desiring too much. Go the limit in writing down your desires.

What Do You Really Desire? Although this is the starting point, it is where many people stop.

For years countless have been telling themselves, “they can’t have”, “can’t afford”, “can’t be” and “shouldn’t do”. They have adopted the belief that other people can, and they can’t. Their daily conversation is filled with more frustration of what they don’t have, than talk of their dreams and desires

Now is the time you can choose to keep your old thoughts, beliefs and excuses or accept that you CAN have what you really desire when you are ready to (1) identify what you desire, (2) write them on a list and (3) take the action required.

Ask yourself - what do you really desire? Just for now, for the sake of this exercise, ignore all those old thoughts of "can't have" for a minute and just write your list.

Then choose 3 items on this list of your desires that are the most important to you right now, and write specifically how much, what kind, where...anything that specifically defines each desire.

The clarity is important. If it's money you desire - How much money do you desire? If it's a new body weight or look - What exact body weight and measurements do you desire? If it's a new home you desire - What size and style of home do you desire? In what city or neighborhood do you desire to live? If you desire a new car - What kind of car do you desire? If you desire a vacation - Where do you desire to take your vacation?

On a clean sheet of paper, write only your top three specific desires. Attach a photograph or a clipping from a magazine that depicts your desire to this page. Carry this page with you every day. Look at it first thing in the morning, again at lunch and again at dinner.

Do not concern yourself at this point how any of this is going to be manifest or delivered to you. This step is to clarify for yourself what you DESIRE.

“Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”~ Martin Luther King, Jr ~

Mindfulness and Simple Keys

mindfulness, noun , dictionary.com
1. the trait of staying aware; paying close attention
2. Attentive; heedful

Mindfulness is being fully present, in each moment of your life, and being aware in all your experiences.

Mindfulness is listening to your inner voice, your body signals and using this information to gain a more clear understanding of your choices.

Mindfulness is being aware of "why" you are doing the things you do and choosing to continue to do the same or make conscious changes. Mindfulness is being aware of the results you created from your choices. Mindfulness is taking responsibility for ALL your actions and the results created from these actions.

Mindfulness is listening and paying attention to the answers, when you ask "How" can I have things different in my life.

Mindfulness is being willing to stop, think and question the premature cognitive commitments you made early in life and your habits.

Many people choose to follow the crowd, because they feel safe. Mindfulness is the opportunity to visit your fears, look at why you adopted them and choosing to keep them - or let go. Letting go for some people is a simple and easy task, whereas other people may need the assistance of a therapist or coach. Both ways are RIGHT!

Pedestal Danger

Have you ever put someone on a pedestal who later disappointed you? Why does that happen? Many times when presenting to a group and I ask this question I will hear that a "spiritual " person is supposed to behave a certain way. And when they don't, the judgment which looms is that this person is really not that spiritual. (Spiritual people aren't supposed to get angry, spiritual people aren't supposed to be fat, spiritual people aren't supposed to drink or smoke or to have problems with anything, and so on....) And then the pedestal crumblesFor me, the real questions are:

Why do I need to put someone on a pedestal, and why must they fall? If I look at the issue of law of attraction or law of cosmic return, and the law of personal responsibility, I must take the time to look at the why and what in my own life. It’s not about the other person. It is about my larger vision and how I am playing it out in my life one event and one experience at a time.

Why must I have someone on a pedestal?
Why am I not putting myself on a pedestal for myself?
What "terrible thing" did this person do? What similar thing, behavior or action, am I doing in my life to myself that was mirrored in their behavior or action? It may not be the exact behavior; however the energy is the same. AS example, if I judge someone for not keeping their word with me, where am I not keeping my word with myself?
What excuse did I grant myself by having them fall? (If they can't do it - no one can, or, I knew it wasn't true, or...?)

Did I attract this person and experience to assist me in my own growth, and instead of accepting the lesson and gift, I can make them wrong and continue my life the way I was. What do I need to look at in my own life where I am feeling a lack of self esteem, so I can feel “superior” because they are wrong and I’m not?!

Usually when we place someone on a pedestal and they fall, we haven’t specifically consciously stated that we wanted them to fall off the pedestal that we put them on, however our larger vision and deeper feelings of self worth are still being brought into form.

When I revisit the truth about myself, I have the opportunity to end this cycle.

You are Worthy

By the simple fact that you are born, you are worthy of all the good and wonderful abundance that life has to offer.

There are those who will attempt to dispute this with different religious beliefs, opinions, beliefs that they adopted from other outside sources, or by presenting examples of their current situations.

Until you believe you are worthy of receiving all the riches of life, you will continue to struggle.

Years ago, a story was told about the “sperm race”. Because of the outcome of this race, you are undoubtedly worthy of the rewards that are bestowed upon a winner.

This race took place prior to your physical birth. There were millions of sperm and one egg in this race of life. The goal of every sperm was to be the one to capture the egg. You were the sperm that won the race. You were immediately a winner at that point. You were the winner that was born.

What changed?

Some of your feelings of self-worth changed with the beliefs that you adopted since taking your first breath. These beliefs started outside yourself, and when you heard them you accepted them as your truth as well, many times without question. As you grew in age and experience, you also began to see your self-worth based on additional outside influences, others opinions and their measurements of value.

We live in a world where self-worth is many times measured with “stuff”; things outside of ourselves.

If your income, financial balance sheet, relationship, career or home doesn’t measure up the same as someone else’s, you may feel less worthy than these other people. If you can afford something by the monetary value placed on it by others, you feel worthy of having it. If you lack the funds, you feel unworthy. These feelings of unworthiness have no boundaries. You carry the same feeling to everything else in your life as well.

As long as we measure our self worthiness with stuff outside of ourselves, we will always come up short.

Self-Worthiness is an internal value.

Start now with this exercise to shift your feeling of self-worth:
Look into a mirror, into your eyes.
Say to yourself: “I am worthy of all of the good things in life”.

Some people will avoid doing this exercise, saying it’s ”stupid” or a “waste of time”. Others will attempt it, and find it difficult to look deeply into their own eyes. Others will continue to do this and connect with their deepest self and start to feel and see changes in their feelings of worthiness and the results in their life.

What benefit does Mindfulness have with my weight management?

To understand how Mindfulness can impact your weight management, you must begin with an understanding of Mindfulness.

Do you find yourself craving food?
Are you really hungry?
Are you sure??

Take a moment and place your attention on how you think about food:
Do you use food as a way of rewarding yourself?
Do you use food as a way of filling time and avoiding a real sense of purpose?
Do you use food as an excuse?
Do you use food for emotional soothing?
Do you use food as a result of anger?
Do you use food to replace sex?
Do you use food as entertainment?
Do you snack? Are you really hungry?
Do you eat because it's "time"? lunch "time", dinner "time", noon, etc.

In order to change your behaviors and attitudes relating to food, you must first be aware of them. Then you have the power to choose the behaviors you want to keep. You are powerless over your food habits, until you know what they are; from there the power is in your choices.

Getting over a Frustration "Bump"

Most people will find times of frustration and struggle as they begin a new focus on their desires.

When you focus on your desires and focus on having what is on your list, you will find more ease in changing your old habits for new habits. Anytime you start to feel doubt, or hear yourself saying “can’t have” or “can’t do this”, immediately pick up your list and start reading and envisioning.

Years ago I met a wonderful woman, Vetura Papke, who taught this a very important principle, and she called it the Golden Key to getting over your frustration bump. In conversation with her one day, I asked what to do when things seemed to be going wrong. She replied that I should practice the Golden Key and refocus. I retorted, “but what if things really seem to be going wrong?” She simply answered, “that is the time to really practice the Golden Key and refocus on your desires accompanied with embodied visualization.

Simply put, the Golden Key is to move your focus, your thoughts and actions from
the frustrating event, and place all your energy and focus back onto your desired reality. When you change the focus of your energy, whatever you are experiencing at that time will change.

This is not some magical game nor is it simply daydreaming or wishing. It is the shifting of your energy.

If you continue to place your energy and focus on the struggle, you will continue to struggle. When you shift your energy to your desired reality, you will find your body more relaxed, your thinking becomes more clear and you may receive inspired guidance of a solution.

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It Works with Simple Keys