That dictionary definition makes sense in a world of human emotions. However, what happens when we get frustrated and ANGRY?
Or frustrated and feeling helpless?
Or frustrated and call ourselves names, ie: stupid?
When we get angry or impatient during or after that moment of frustration, it is because we want what is happening right now, to be different than it is right now.
There has been an increase in buzz about the law of attraction since the release of the movie, the Secret.
Many people will proudly declare “law of attraction” or LOA, when they get a parking space, a table without waiting at a restaurant, a green light at an intersection; and in the next breath deny or ignore all personal responsibility, when IT doesn't go the way they wish.
If you observe what you are thinking in your own mind, you will see that when you come face to face with your frustration over what IS happening right now, that your habitual thoughts will first condemn. Then your thoughts begin to compare IT (what is happening right now) with 'what IT should be'; or you search and listen for thoughts to justify IT. And then your next choice of emotions begin.
Anger related to frustration is a form of tantrum throwing. Many people have developed the habit of magical and microwave type thinking that IT must change and IT must change now.
Like the TV show from the 60's, Bewitched, the most effort many people want to have to exercise is to twitch their noses and have IT change instantly. (Eventually we would get angry with having to twitch our noses all the time and we would want IT to change without having to twitch).
Our anger doesn’t want to learn anything new, or do anything different – we just want IT the way we want IT without any further effort on our part. (see small child foot stomping emphasis here)
Many people have developed the habit of accepting feelings of helplessness sometimes just after the anger or accompanying it. The helplessness comes from lumping this one IT into all the other IT's that are (allegedly) going wrong in our life – and our negative emotions escalate. It's difficult to eat an entire buffet at once. It's much easier to focus on one course and one bite at a time. Yet we lump all our life events into one mountainous illusion, and dwarf ourselves in its shadow.
And in moments of low self esteem, name calling rears its head. This behavior has no positive value and only creates more feelings of helplessness and unworthiness. Your frustration turned into self loathing is telling you that you are operating on an old limiting belief about yourself. This may require additional introspection on the topic of self worthiness.
WHAT IF you were hiking in beautiful nature and enjoying the journey and you came upon a stream of water you needed to cross. Would you sit down and get angry that the stream was interfering with your hike; or you would look for an answer around you for how to get across; or you would call upon your creative mind; or you would give up and retreat? So many choices.Anger, feelings of helplessness, frustration and name calling close the door to possibilities. It can be painful when we bang our heads against a closed door.
WHAT IF there was a lock on that door that only required a key? Would you start looking for the key, get angry because it wasn’t already in your pocket, or keep banging your head and increasing the pain, or would you give up?
You actually already possess that key, and it is within your reach.
WHAT IF you looked at a frustrating IT as an opportunity? And I’m not talking about that see-saw string of words chimed by so many New Agers ..."Here’s another spiritual opportunity for growth……”
WHAT IF – at the first moment of frustration you took a moment to ask yourself –
"why am I reacting the way I am?”
when I have reacted this way in the past – have those times gotten me closer to or farther away from my desired result?”
“what is my intended result with my behavior, my actions or the activity I am involved in right now?”
"am I willing to I learn something new that will enhance my career or quality of life?"
"am I learning a new way to use my creative mind?"
"Is this an opportunity to let go of an old habit and accept what is right now, so I can learn a new habit?"
"Am I willing to apologize to myself and forgive myself?
WHAT IF – in that moment of reflection you heard from your inner self that this frustrating IT was an answer to something you had previously asked for, or an opportunity to learn something new in your moving forward energy in life or career, or this IT was an opportunity to learn something new to complete something from your past?How would you respond to that frustrating IT now?
I am suggesting that you decide in the right now, in the IT of frustration how you want the next moment to be. I am suggesting you take responsibility for your reactions and choose the one that moves you closer to your desired result.
Whether you refer to what happens in your life as Law of Attraction, Law of Return, Karma, Synchronicity, Law of Reciprocity, Cause and Effect, The Golden Rule , Energetics, etc - the bottom line is your responsibility. You are responsible for the choices you make and the results that occur because of the choices you make.
“One new perception, one fresh thought, one act of surrender,
one change of heart,
one leap of faith, can change your life forever.”
~ Robert Holden ~
When we present a topic we also like to offer Keys to assist you in finding your solution.
There are several Keys to assist you in moving through Frustration to empowerment.
“ We must also be careful to avoid ingesting toxins in the form of violent TV programs, video games, movies, magazines, and books. When we watch that kind of violence, we water our own negative seeds, or tendencies, and eventually we will think and act out of those seeds. " ~Thich Nhat Hahn
We suggest Movies with Message for positive movie recommendations
The ancient Hawaiian Ho'Oponopono method of problem solving is another excellent key.
This videos is one of the best we have found. Click the arrow in the center of the image to play.
The background is a music track from the album "Ho'oponopono Song" from Aman Ryusuke Seto. The album is available at www.galaxymusic.net.
You can also download a MP3 meditation from Amazon.com and carry it with you:
What does forgiveness mean?
What difference does it make?
These books may also assist you.
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